Thursday, October 12, 2006

LOVE......!


" I am in love."

I've heard that so many times. Its really easy to say that sentence. But I wonder how many of them who had said it believe their own words. They Just say the words. It is like a slip of tongue.
May be they want to believe that they are in love, eventhough they are not. Many of my friends used to argue with me about true love, trying to prove me that about their true love for their gfs/bfs. But at the end they usually agree with me.

I'm not saying that love doesn't exist. It does exist. But there are conditions for that. One of the most important condition is sex. Without sex True love cannot exist. Don't get confused! Here I am talking about romantic love.

"romantic love, which is characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire" Wikipedia

I can prove my argument.

You think that you are in love with someone, and boast about your love for that person till you get married. And you might be dating that person for a long time ( 5 years? ). But within 2-3 months of your marriage you will get divorced. Why?
Because, You were not really in love. You were mutually attracted to that person, and after getting married you realise that your sex doesn't match. Thats where the problem starts. ( sex before marriage (SBM) cases does not count in this)

Love at first sight? Oh c'mon! That exists only in ancient stories. Not in reality. You might like the person at first sight. You might even get attracted. Its just attractins, not love.

Don't get me wrong its not only sex that is needed for love. there are other things as well...
But believe me, there is nothing called love at first sight. You can only love a person romantically if you have shared an intense sexual relationship with that peson. There is no other way.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

I titally agree with you. But you did not prove your argument

Bandey said...

thats true. your points were stated but not proven.
sex after marriage cases against sex before marriage cases can be totally argued over a statistical point of view. but that still wont rule out majority.

Anonymous said...

Now where would our blogosphere be without Wikipedia....

moyameehaa said...

I agree...but i believe that....proving that point is very difficult...getting statistics which bandey have mentioned is not an easy task.sorry, i cant help in that..kekeke.

any way..i have read another post on love..by crazysuja.blogspot.com here.

and i have commented there... i will almost repeat the same comment here...


=loving somone for his/her beauty or for sexual attraction is somethin i would never mention in that looong list of love....i dont believe that it is another type of love..no...it is not.See..if you say you love that beautiful girl....someday she might be suffering from some disease which take away that beauty,and you will have to clean her every now and then...she cant do anything by her self...would you still love her?or even worse..if she is not that gud-u discover it fter marrying-as monchi have said here.it is divine.it is rare -in real life-but sure..you can a lot in movies and stories.

Sometimes love develop from caring...that is what happened to that girl in the sms story...that is how we love our mothers...they took care of us...they sacrificed for us...we love them (actually we dont love them on purpose.. love for them develops within us..)

Love for god..is something which exists....It is for every thing he is doing for us...we are born we are taken care of...when we forget ...he reminds us...when every good thing happens and every bad thing happens...believers show their love and respect for God

it is hard to explain love.Beast(in the Beauty and the Beast)couldnt love or care at first...but later he learned...not from a book...but from love and caring itself.

Mevlana Jalaludin Rumi said about love..."Reason is powerless in the expression of Love."...he is so true..we can talk about love for hours...we can write huge volumes about love...but still...we will be unable to give a full explanation of love.love is love.=

foniboki said...

Yes, Love is love, real or romantic. Real love means eternal commitment. I think here, he is talking about romantic love not platonic love.

The simple truth is that 'love' is not a permanent state. Even among people who remain married/committed to each other the nature of their relationship changes over time, moving away from the initial intense sexual attraction. Separation/divorce often occurs because people don't have enough of an underlying connection to sustain their relationship after the initial sexual attraction weakens.

And, what if you don't want to work at it doesn't mean there isn't romantic love.

Anonymous said...

i remember seeing some pretty amusing comments from moyameeha here just a day ago?

where did they go?

Mulhadhevi said...

Totally agree with u. You've not given the statics of how many marriage got divorce.......but its very nice ok

Mulhadhevi said...

Totally agree with u.But only the problem in it is you hevent given the stats of how many marriage has got divorced because of this.......But its nice......

ThesinningSlave said...

love is a 'bittersweet symphony'...

TruthCures said...

Research has shown that there are some chemical changes in the physiology in the initial phase of a relationship. This lasts for 18 months. After that there needs to be other things to hold the relationship together.

If it is purely based on sex, it will be hard to make it last. but of course the foundation can develop within those 18 months such that a purely sexual relationship can develop into a binding stable committed one.

Anonymous said...

i agree with u about the 'love at first sight' thingy..no comment on the sex thing :D

Anonymous said...

thats too broad a generalisation... this entry and the comments are a scary reflection of the human condition..

~ange|~ said...

very true

thuized said...

I totally agree with the fact that thers no such thing as luv at first sight.And abt the thing where sex is everything in a marriage, its not really every thing i beleive.their might be a link to wat may cause this.and marriage is wats its all abt,understandin each other.If not, then u may be proven that u didnt get to learn the person before marriage.therefore, get to kno them before marriage..keke

deadloner said...

i dont agree in love at first sight too..

u gotta KNOW the person to ACTUALLY LOVE him... or her...

otherwise, "i love you" at first sight would most probably be taken as "i would love to have sex with you"..

in most of the cases

and i also dont believe that sex is everything in a relationship.. before or after marriage...

Mrs. GoDZ|LLa said...

wow.. i have no opposition against any of the points u have considered...

and i agree with loner..

great work :) thanks so much for sharing...

Nasreen said...

I completely agree with u......But still i even believe that its very difficult to prove....Nice topic man...

Anonymous said...

intresting ......

frightful said...

sorry monchi i don't agree with u 'sex' is an important factor, bt it is not the only factor which decides weather u'd love ur gf/wife or husband or bf.

and i dont agree with someof the comments here either ... hehe if u are in love with somone and if that person gets an illness which could never be cured u'd still love. if u find ur wife/husband has betrayed u and if u love him /her truly u'd continue to love him u might get a divorce or get seperated bt ur love is still in ur heart. its and love and hate comes together dho if u don love u dont hate... so to hate someone first u have to love....

i've met ppl fallin in love without seeing each other. and i've seen them makin their life succesful too so ......

if u could have provided sm statistic it would have been eiser to believe u ...hehe